Dementia Caregiver Thoughts: Part 2--How your thoughts impact your LOWD

Uncategorized Apr 14, 2019

Welcome back Careblazer! Today I am going to continue the discussion from last week on the power of your thoughts but I want to specifically focus on how your YOUR thinking actually impacts your loved one’s behavior. It’s pretty wild that your thinking can actually impacts your loved one’s mood for better or for worse and I'm hoping that by watching this video you can apply it to help you.

If you missed last week’s discussion, I recommend you stop reading this one and go back to last week’s blog or watch the video first. Then come right on back. To read last weeks blog click here. To watch the video click here

As a quick recap, last week we talked about how situations don’t create your emotions. It’s your thinking about the situation that creates your emotion.

Let’s take an example straight out of the Careblazer Survival guide for a quick review.

SITUATION: Your mom lost her purse again and is yelling that you stole her...

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Dementia Caregiver Thoughts: Part 1

Uncategorized Apr 07, 2019

Hi there Careblazer,

I want to share with you a concept I’ve been teaching inside my Care group with my private care group members. Because they are seeing such great results I want to share some of that with you here as well. This will be the first of a 3 part series on your thoughts and your feelings as a dementia Careblazer and how you can start to feel better. So the next 2 blogs will be follow-ups on this and helping you take the concept further and apply it to your life.

If you would prefer to watch my video, click here

Okay, now let’s get started.

I’m going to share something with you that may take you by surprise and i really hope you will keep reading and try to apply it to your life because I think it can be life changing.

Here is goes: Situations do NOT create your feelings. They don’t. What creates your feelings are the thoughts you are having about those situations.

So nothing your LO says or nothing your LO does is actually causing...

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Letting Someone with Dementia Help

Uncategorized Mar 31, 2019

When it comes to caring for someone with dementia, there is so much that you have to do to care for them. Many times, the things they used to do they are no longer able to do so you’ve stepped in. Today I want to talk about how your helping may actually be hurting your relationship with your loved one in the long run and what you can do about it.

Now I know some of you might be thinking, "What? How can my helping be hurting. I mean, I’m helping!" If you remember the video I did on the 3 things hurting your relationship with your loved one I talked about doing too much to help them as one of the things. Basically, the person with dementia may not believe they need the help, they may think you are treating them like a baby and in that video I talk about ways you can continue to help them without calling much attention to your help.

So I want to talk about how you can proactively improve your relationship with your loved one by getting them to help you! Here’s the...

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Vascular Dementia

Uncategorized Mar 24, 2019

Welcome back Careblazer!


Let’s talk vascular dementia. In this post I’ll explain: 

--What is vascular dementia

--Who is at risk for vascular dementia

--The general course of vascular dementia and how it affects the brain

As you know, there are many different types of dementia. The different types of dementia are caused by different things and can present in different ways. Vascular dementia is pretty interesting because it can present and progress quite differently. Also, it’s really common and occurs frequently with Alzheimer’s disease. If you remember from my video on 5 surprising facts on dementia- you can have more than one type of dementia.

So let’s start getting clear on what exactly vascular dementia is. First of all, the underlying source that is causing the thinking issues is vascular in nature, which is just a fancier way of saying it’s caused by a blood flow issue to the brain. So anything that negatively impacts blood...

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Self-Care for the Dementia Caregiver

Uncategorized Mar 03, 2019



Today I want to talk about how to improve self care. I was recently talking to my care course members on a concept that can help reduce caregiver stress and I think it can help many of you so I want to share it here.

If you'd prefer to watch my video on this topic instead of reading, you can do so here

As you know, and as I’ve talked about in many previous videos, reducing your stress helps reduce frustration and difficult behaviors in your love one with dementia. I just want to remind you of that because many times when people hear the word self-care the brain automatically assumes its something just for the self, but in reality this is for you AND your loved one with dementia. At the end of this I have a challenge for you based on the concept I’m about to share and I really want you to take me up on this challenge. It’s one thing to read this but it’s a whole different thing to take it to the next level and apply it to your life. I...

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How to Comfort Someone with Dementia

Uncategorized Feb 24, 2019

Most of my blogs focus on topics such as how you- the Careblazer- can cope with your frustration when your loved one repeats themselves over and over, believes and says things that aren’t true, and does things that make life super difficult on you but don’t seem to realize that they do these things. But this is going to focus on something different.

I want to focus on those of you who have LO’s in the more mild stages that are aware from time to time that the brain isn’t working correctly and are bothered by it.

If you'd prefer to watch my video on this topic instead of reading, you can do so here

How do you respond to someone who becomes sad or tearful that they can’t remember the name of their child, or that they forgot what they were doing, or that they said something completely wrong in front of others?

I think what is more common is for people with mild dementia to hide their struggles, get defensive if anyone brings up concerns, cover up...

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Is dementia testing necessary

Uncategorized Feb 24, 2019

Today I want to talk a comment someone left under one of my YT videos and it basically said something like, there is no point in getting tested for dementia since dementia can’t be cured anyway.


This is a common thought and because you may also be wondering if dementia testing is worthwhile, I want to talk about some reasons testing can be helpful. 


If you'd prefer to watch my video on this topic instead of reading, you can do so here. 


If you haven’t already watched my video on how dementia is diagnosed, be sure to watch that video because it may fill in the gaps for any questions you have about the testing process. You can watch that video here. 


However, as far as the comment that testing isn’t even needed, let’s talk about this because it’s not exactly wrong. In fact, I am willing to bet that for many of you watching right now, your LO hasn’t even had formal dementia testing, or...

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Dementia and how to communicate easier

dementia communication Feb 03, 2019

Today, I want to share with you a new way to think about interacting with your loved one with dementia that will reduce the chances they will resist you when you try to give hands on care.

If you have ever tried to help your loved one change clothes, bathe, or help them eat just to find that they pushed you away or rejected your help, then this post will be helpful to you. By keeping this new way of thinking in your mind, I hope you will find that your loved one is more accepting of your help as many other Careblazers have found when using this approach.

If you prefer to watch a video on the this topic, you can click here

In dementia, a person often loses the ability to make sense of words. and they can have difficulty following sentences. They may also not understand they have dementia and need help. So when you go to help your loved one (i.e. bring a spoon to their face, wash their hair, or help take off their pants), it’s likely that they will back away,...

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Delusions and Dementia

Hi there Careblazer.  I’m happy to be back with this week’s topic on delusions and dementia. Many of you are caring for a loved one who believes things that are just not true. Some of them may even accuse you or blame you of things that aren’t true.

There are so many symptoms in dementia...not just memory problems. One common symptom is delusions. Delusions are basically really strong beliefs that your loved one has that aren't real but your loved one believes them to be real. And no matter how bizarre or strange or impossible their belief is, they believe it no matter what.

Some common delusions include things like thinking someone is breaking into their home and stealing things.

Someone spying on them or following them.

Feeling like a spouse is having an affair.

Many times the person they may think is doing these things is often you...the caregiver.

So if your loved one is having delusions and you are struggling for how to respond, then...

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Don't do these 3 things with your loved one with dementia

Uncategorized Jan 06, 2019

Hey there Careblazer.  Today, I want to share 3 things that you may be doing that’s hurting your relationship with your loved one with dementia.

The 3 things likely come naturally to you and in some ways it may even seem like the best thing to do. BUT as I will discuss, it’s actually quite harmful for your relationship. By doing these 3 things, it’s likely that your loved one will start to resent you, start to act out against you, start to tell others about all the awful things that you’re doing which you know aren't’ true and so on. 


If you feel like your relationship with your loved one is strained, then read on to see if you are doing any of these 3 things. Or, if you prefer to watch a video on this topic, you can click here

The first thing you may be doing that’s hurting your relationship with your loved one is CORRECTING your loved one with dementia.


It’s pretty natural for for people to...

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