Welcome back Careblazer. Today I want to share with you something to help you cope with caregiver stress. 

If you watched the March 10th episode with Nutritionist, Sunny, then you know she applied this to urges to wanting to eat junk food. I think it’s an easy wonderful way to also respond to many urges and reactions in life.

If you feel that you sometimes react before you think, often causing more problems and frustrations in your caregiving situation, then this might be helpful to you. 

If you would rather watch my video on this topic, click here. 

We all lose our cool from time to time. And if you haven’t watched my video on dementia caregiver anger, you can click here to get some information on how to respond to a very natural and normal reaction to a stressful situation. 

This is an additional way to help you through those situations to help hopefully reduce some of the actions you are making that seem to be making things worse. If...

Welcome back Careblazer. Today I wanted to do another Careblazer Q & A. This is the segment where I answer your questions. If you ever have any questions you want me to answer, make sure you leave them in the comments section. I review all my questions and comments and choose them for future video topics or to use in these segments. 

This video is sponsored by my Care Club. It’s a private course dedicated to improving dementia caregiver stress & improving your interactions with your love done with dementia. It’s a way to start living a life you feel good about again. I believe strongly that it is possible to value yourself and do a wonderful job at caring for your loved one with dementia. In that course I do regular live Q & A sessions with the members.  If you want to be alerted to the next time this course is available, be sure to sign up for the next care class announcement. 

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Today I want to share a quick tip that can help improve your relationship with your loved one with dementia. It’s simple, it’s quick, and you can start today. 

If you would rather watch my video on this topic, click here. 

The tip is to catch your loved one being “good,” doing good things, enjoying themselves, and any other activity or behavior that you find welcoming or at the very least - not disturbing. 

With everything that you’ve got going on in your life and your caregiving situation, it is so easy to be hyper aware of all the challenges and difficulties. I don’t think any Careblazer needs any more help noticing all the things that aren’t going to well or noticing all the areas of struggle. 

In fact, as humans we are hard wired to notice the negative events and to let those negative moments or events impact us more heavily than the good. Our brains are literally wired to notice more bad...

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Today I want to talk to Careblazers who are not living near their loved one with dementia. It is really easy for Careblazers to feel like they can't do much when they are living far away but I want to share ideas that you can do to help your LOWD and to help anyone who is caring for your LOWD who lives close. I hope this is helpful. 

If you would rather watch my video on this topic, click here. 

#1- Do Not Feel Guilty

Many times when a loved one develops dementia and lives out of state, it’s easy to feel guilty. You may feel like you should be there, like you can’t do all that you want to do. However, guilt has never ever helped any situation, it just doesn’t. There are many different reasons you may not be able to live with or near your LOWD and that is ok. You don't have to justify it to anybody. Everyone's situation is different. That is life. Don't feel guilty. 

#2- Assist with Hands Off Tasks...

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I recently received a question from a Careblazer who asked what can speech therapy do for someone with dementia? Her loved one with dementia was referred for speech therapy and this Careblazer was confused about what exactly that would do. I think this is a wonderful question and I’m guessing you may be wondering the same thing. 

If you would rather watch my video on this topic, click here. 

When it comes to giving good dementia care and good geriatric care, I always say that multiple different disciplines need to be involved. Great care for your loved one with dementia usually involves more than just one doc. People like nurses, social workers, psychiatrists, psychologists, PCP’s, neurologists, occupational therapists, nutritionists, they all can play a helpful role in the care of your loved one. I’ve worked with some amazing teams in my career and the best teams absolutely included a speech pathologist. 

So...

Hi there Careblazer, 

I hate that I even have to write about this, but unfortunately, there are too many stories that I can’t ignore this important topic. 

There are laws in place to protect older “vulnerable” adults from abuse and neglect. In the U.S. it’s called Adult Protective Services. Similar to how there are laws in place to protect children, there are laws in place to protect adults.

The goal of these laws and the organizations who investigate reports is  to prevent older adults from being abused, neglected, and exploited. As I’m sure all of you are aware older adults and especially older adults with dementia are frequently the victim of scams. APS helps investigate any reports of such abuse. 

If you would rather watch my video on this topic, click here. 

While most of the information out there focuses on people who are actually doing the abusing, I want to talk about a different perspective. There may come a time, when...

Hey there Careblazer, 

Today I want to share with you a simple way to respond to your loved one with dementia when they are upset, angry, having delusions, insisting on something that’s not true, and any other wide variety of behaviors that are difficult to handle and that you feel at a loss for how to respond. 

If you would rather watch my video on this topic, click here. 

We already know that trying to argue, reason, rationalize with someone with dementia usually does not end well. You and your LOWD are typically left with even more frustration than there was in the beginning. So what else can you do? 

Many Careblazers have great success with responding to the emotion behind the words and not the words themselves. 

Let me give a few examples, 

Let’s say your loved one keeps sayings someone is stealing their things and is insisting someone came in and stole their glasses. When you try to tell them that no one stole their glasses, that they...

Well hello there, Careblazer. Welcome back. In last week’s post I talked about how to deal with other people’s opinions of you and how you care for your loved one with dementia (click here for that video). 

Today, I want to talk about the desire or urge to get others to understand what you are going through. I think these two topics are very closely related and can cause a lot of stress, guilt, and frustration for the Careblazer. To watch my video on this topic click here. 

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I sometimes get questions from Careblazers asking me how to get their family members to understand what its like being the caregiver. Usually that kind of desire is from a need for others to offer help, offer sympathy, or just offer support. Totally understandable. It’s hard to go about this alone.

Families can be hard and when dementia is involved it can be especially hard for families to come together. In many situations, there is usually one main...

Hi there Careblazer,

Welcome back. Today I want to talk about other people’s opinions on your caregiving situation. If you would like to watch my video on this topic please click here. Let me know if any of this sounds familiar.

You are thinking of placing your LOWD and people tell you that you shouldn’t do it. He doesn’t seem that bad. He won’t get good care. You can keep doing it.

People who talk to your loved one tell you they don’t seem all that bad and start to look at you as if you are exaggerating everything. She seemed fine when I talked to her on the phone.

People tell you what you should be doing differently.

To make things worse, many times the people who are telling you these things are actually family members or friends and that is hurtful. It leads to feeling angry, guilty, and a whole bunch of other negative emotions.

You may even feel judged like people think you are selfish and not doing a good job caring for loved one....

Welcome back Careblazer! Today I want to answer some of your questions. I receive a lot of questions from Careblazers and unfortunately I can’t answer them all through email or comment responses. Most of your questions deserve more than a few sentence response so that’s what today is all about - Careblazer Questions.

If you have any questions, all you have to do is leave them below any post. I go through them all and you might just see your question answered in a future post.

If you would rather watch my video on this topic, click here. 

This post is sponsored by my Care Club- It’s a private course dedicated to improving dementia caregiver stress & improving your interactions with your love done with dementia. It’s a way to start living a life you feel good about again. I believe strongly that it is possible to value yourself and do a wonderful job at caring for your loved one with dementia. If you want to be alerted to the next time this course is...