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Dementia Caregiver Expectations

Uncategorized Sep 01, 2019

Hi there Careblazer, welcome back.

Today I want to talk about dementia caregiver expectations. You already know there will be hard times, you have already had your fair share of hard times. 

I want to take some time today to talk about your expectations on a little bit of a deeper level and give you a new way to think about those difficult moments when they do arise, because you know there are more coming your way in the future. 

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Dementia is a really difficult thing for family to care for. It’s one of the few conditions that no matter how much great care you give, how much love you give, how much attention you give, no matter what you sacrifice, how much you do, your loved one is going to get worse. It’s awful. I wish it was different. 

Because the dementia is going to get worse, that means that there is a high chance that whatever challenges you are faced with now, you will...

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How to Handle Difficult Dementia Behaviors in Public

Uncategorized Aug 25, 2019

Welcome back Careblazer!

I'm happy to be here. Today I’m going to talk about a simple way to handle any embarrassing behaviors or comments your loved one may say to others when out in public. 

But first, I just want to give a heartfelt thanks to all of you who have subscribed to my channel and continue to support the Careblaozer movement AND are committed to giving great care to your loved one with dementia. It really means a lot. Thank you. If you haven’t already subscribed, all you have to do is hit that red subscribe button on your screen, it’s completely free and it will ensure you don’t miss any new video announcements. Thank you. 

Okay, let’s get started. 

Have any of your ever cringed at the times when you take your loved one in public? Worried about what they might say or do in public? I’m sure many of you have experienced some embarrassing moments when you felt at a loss of what to do or say to others who experienced your...

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The STOP Method

Uncategorized Aug 18, 2019

 

Welcome back Careblazer. Today I want to share with you something to help you cope with caregiver stress. 

If you watched the March 10th episode with Nutritionist, Sunny, then you know she applied this to urges to wanting to eat junk food. I think it’s an easy wonderful way to also respond to many urges and reactions in life.

If you feel that you sometimes react before you think, often causing more problems and frustrations in your caregiving situation, then this might be helpful to you. 

If you would rather watch my video on this topic, click here

We all lose our cool from time to time. And if you haven’t watched my video on dementia caregiver anger, you can click here to get some information on how to respond to a very natural and normal reaction to a stressful situation. 

This is an additional way to help you through those situations to help hopefully reduce some of the actions you are making that seem to be making things worse. If...

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Your Dementia Questions Answered: Careblazer Q&A

Uncategorized Aug 11, 2019

Welcome back Careblazer. Today I wanted to do another Careblazer Q & A. This is the segment where I answer your questions. If you ever have any questions you want me to answer, make sure you leave them in the comments section. I review all my questions and comments and choose them for future video topics or to use in these segments. 

This video is sponsored by my Care Club. It’s a private course dedicated to improving dementia caregiver stress & improving your interactions with your love done with dementia. It’s a way to start living a life you feel good about again. I believe strongly that it is possible to value yourself and do a wonderful job at caring for your loved one with dementia. In that course I do regular live Q & A sessions with the members.  If you want to be alerted to the next time this course is available, be sure to sign up for the next care class announcement. 

Okay,  let’s get started. 

Is there a possibility...

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Improve Your Relationship with Your LOWD

Uncategorized Aug 04, 2019

Welcome back Careblazer!

Today I want to share a quick tip that can help improve your relationship with your loved one with dementia. It’s simple, it’s quick, and you can start today. 

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The tip is to catch your loved one being “good,” doing good things, enjoying themselves, and any other activity or behavior that you find welcoming or at the very least - not disturbing. 

With everything that you’ve got going on in your life and your caregiving situation, it is so easy to be hyper aware of all the challenges and difficulties. I don’t think any Careblazer needs any more help noticing all the things that aren’t going to well or noticing all the areas of struggle. 

In fact, as humans we are hard wired to notice the negative events and to let those negative moments or events impact us more heavily than the good. Our brains are literally wired to notice more bad...

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Long Distance Caregiving

Uncategorized Jul 28, 2019

Welcome back Careblazers!

 

Today I want to talk to Careblazers who are not living near their loved one with dementia. It is really easy for Careblazers to feel like they can't do much when they are living far away but I want to share ideas that you can do to help your LOWD and to help anyone who is caring for your LOWD who lives close. I hope this is helpful. 

 

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#1- Do Not Feel Guilty

Many times when a loved one develops dementia and lives out of state, it’s easy to feel guilty. You may feel like you should be there, like you can’t do all that you want to do. However, guilt has never ever helped any situation, it just doesn’t. There are many different reasons you may not be able to live with or near your LOWD and that is ok. You don't have to justify it to anybody. Everyone's situation is different. That is life. Don't feel guilty. 

 

#2- Assist with Hands Off Tasks...

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Dementia & Speech Therapy

Uncategorized Jul 21, 2019

Hi there Careblazer, welcome back. 

I recently received a question from a Careblazer who asked what can speech therapy do for someone with dementia? Her loved one with dementia was referred for speech therapy and this Careblazer was confused about what exactly that would do. I think this is a wonderful question and I’m guessing you may be wondering the same thing. 

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When it comes to giving good dementia care and good geriatric care, I always say that multiple different disciplines need to be involved. Great care for your loved one with dementia usually involves more than just one doc. People like nurses, social workers, psychiatrists, psychologists, PCP’s, neurologists, occupational therapists, nutritionists, they all can play a helpful role in the care of your loved one. I’ve worked with some amazing teams in my career and the best teams absolutely included a speech pathologist. 

So...

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Adult Protective Services: What to do if you are falsely accused

Uncategorized Jul 07, 2019

Hi there Careblazer, 

I hate that I even have to write about this, but unfortunately, there are too many stories that I can’t ignore this important topic. 

There are laws in place to protect older “vulnerable” adults from abuse and neglect. In the U.S. it’s called Adult Protective Services. Similar to how there are laws in place to protect children, there are laws in place to protect adults.

The goal of these laws and the organizations who investigate reports is  to prevent older adults from being abused, neglected, and exploited. As I’m sure all of you are aware older adults and especially older adults with dementia are frequently the victim of scams. APS helps investigate any reports of such abuse. 

If you would rather watch my video on this topic, click here

While most of the information out there focuses on people who are actually doing the abusing, I want to talk about a different perspective. There may come a time, when...

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A Simple Way to Respond to Difficult Dementia Behaviors

Uncategorized Jul 07, 2019

Hey there Careblazer, 

Today I want to share with you a simple way to respond to your loved one with dementia when they are upset, angry, having delusions, insisting on something that’s not true, and any other wide variety of behaviors that are difficult to handle and that you feel at a loss for how to respond. 

If you would rather watch my video on this topic, click here

We already know that trying to argue, reason, rationalize with someone with dementia usually does not end well. You and your LOWD are typically left with even more frustration than there was in the beginning. So what else can you do? 

Many Careblazers have great success with responding to the emotion behind the words and not the words themselves. 

Let me give a few examples, 

Let’s say your loved one keeps sayings someone is stealing their things and is insisting someone came in and stole their glasses. When you try to tell them that no one stole their glasses, that they...

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Avoiding the Urge to Convince: How to Communicate Your Careblazer Journey with Others

Uncategorized Jun 23, 2019

Well hello there, Careblazer. Welcome back. In last week’s post I talked about how to deal with other people’s opinions of you and how you care for your loved one with dementia (click here for that video). 

Today, I want to talk about the desire or urge to get others to understand what you are going through. I think these two topics are very closely related and can cause a lot of stress, guilt, and frustration for the Careblazer. To watch my video on this topic click here

Okay, let’s get started.

I sometimes get questions from Careblazers asking me how to get their family members to understand what its like being the caregiver. Usually that kind of desire is from a need for others to offer help, offer sympathy, or just offer support. Totally understandable. It’s hard to go about this alone.

Families can be hard and when dementia is involved it can be especially hard for families to come together. In many situations, there is usually one main...

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