Legal Questions Answered

Uncategorized Nov 24, 2019

Hey There Careblazers!

This week, instead of writing a blog or doing one of my regular videos, I arranged an interview with an elder law planning firm to answer Careblazers' legal questions. More specifically, I worked with Drake and Cash Law Firm ( to answer the following questions:

What’s the difference between a Power of Attorney and Guardian?

How does someone make sure they have a “strong” POA?

How is it determined when a POA is “in effect?”

Do you have to file the POA with the country clerk?

What’s the difference between Medicare and Medicaid and what’s the best way to protect assets for spouses?

Is there protection for family living in the home of someone with dementia?

What is a living trust and should you have one?

Is divorce recommended to protect assets?

Is an IRA and VA disability counted as income for medicare eligibility?

Can someone with dementia make a change to their will without their POA knowing?


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Comparing Past to Present

Uncategorized Nov 17, 2019

Hey there Careblazer!

The holidays are upon us. While all the commercials and TV shows, and people you come across may seem happy, joyful and doing all the wonderful holiday things, I know for many of you this is an especially difficult time. It can feel lonely and sad and like you’re one of the few people around that doesn’t have that great family connection or that has to spend Thanksgiving cleaning up bathroom messes, waking up in the middle of the night for your loved one who is wandering or having bathroom accidents, or screaming that they just want to go home when they are at home.

For some of you, this is especially difficult because your loved one is no longer at home with you. They may be in a nursing home or assisted living facility, or even have passed away. Given all the emotions that typically come along with this time of year, I wanted to spend some time talking about something that creates a lot of distress and discomfort for us that we all do from time...

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Simple Ways to Respond to Complaints/Objections Made by Your LOWD

Uncategorized Nov 10, 2019

Hey there Careblazer, welcome back!

Today I want to talk about a simple way to respond to objections or complaints your loved one may have. Many times Careblazers try to respond to their loved one with rationale and logical explanations and they are frustrated when their loved one doesn’t accept it, disagrees with it, or continues to complain about the same thing. The idea for this video came to me after a Careblazer inside of my Ultimate Care Course shared a simple way she responded to her husband who was complaining about the food in his nursing home. After trying to respond rationally and getting frustrated that her husband continued to complain and insisted things change, she tweaked her approach and found that it worked wonders. Her husband stopped complaining about the food and their visits and conversations were more pleasant. I hope you will find this approach helpful to some of your specific situations. 

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Respect & Dignity: 6 Ways to Make Dementia Care Tasks Easier

Uncategorized Nov 03, 2019


Well hello there, Careblazers!

I hope you are having a wonderful day. It’s November in Arizona so it’s the best time of year. We don’t have trees that change color in the city, but we do have license plates that change color. We often joke that we know it’s fall in AZ when the license plates change because there are a lot of people who live in AZ for half the year when the weather is really nice, we call them snow birds. Then when the summer comes and it’s triple digits everyone leaves. So the roads go from super busy and congested in the fall and winter to open space in the summer. It’s fun. I really just enjoy feeling like pumpkin pie is an acceptable breakfast and I don’t have to feel guilty about it. 

Okay, let’s get to today’s topic. Today, I want to talk about respect in dignity when providing care tasks to your loved one. Last week, I talked about respect and dignity when speaking to or about your loved one...

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Respect & Dignity: How to Talk to Someone with Dementia

Uncategorized Oct 27, 2019

Welcome back Careblazer!

One of you recently commented under one of my videos and it was such an important comment I thought it was worthy of a video. It’s about the idea of treating someone with dementia with respect and dignity when speaking to them or about them. I’m going to share 3 common ways caregivers may be condescending when talking to or about their loved ones in a way that lacks dignity and negatively impacts the relationship. I also recently got a question about how to offer help and care without making the person feel incompetent or needy. I think today’s topic helps address both of these questions. 

If you would rather watch my video on this topic, click here

It’s easy to unintentionally talk to or about your loved one with dementia in a way that is condescending. I don’t think most people do this on purpose, it's just that after seeing your loved one go downhill and having to do SO MUCH for our loved ones, it can sometimes...

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Careblazer Q & A

Uncategorized Oct 20, 2019

Well hello there Careblazer! I am so excited for today’s show, not only because it’s a Q & A segment answering your questions, but because this is my first video back from deployment. For the past 5 months, the videos that have been posting were all pre-recorded and scheduled to upload since I was on deployment in Iraq. I’m happy to announce that I am back and ready to focus on Careblazers more than ever before.

If you are reading this when it’s released on Sunday, October 20th, then you are in luck. I’m hosting 4 different live Care classes focusing on what you can do right now to help lower dementia caregiver stress. I will also be taking your questions live and spending some time hanging out online with you. To join, click here. Space is limited 100 people per class, so don’t wait. I hope to see you there.  

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If you are new to Careblazers, welcome! I’m excited...

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Infidelity Accusations

Uncategorized Oct 13, 2019

Welcome back Careblazer. Today I want to talk about a common and hurtful accusation that your loved one may be making toward you and it’s common in dementia. 

I’m talking about when your loved one believes that you are cheating on them. Now this isn’t necessarily a symptom only of dementia, relationships everywhere with all types of people experience the challenge of one person accusing the other person of cheating and that other person may, or may not, be cheating. 

But as Careblazers, I want to talk about what to do if you are in the situation where your loved one believes you are cheating, constantly accuses you of cheating, gets frustrated and upset with you throughout the day about you cheating. This is something that not only makes your relationship strained and causes stress for you, it also causes a lot of distress in your loved one with dementia which leads to increased difficult behavior making your job as the Careblazer more difficult. 


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Delusions, Hallucinations, and Illusions: What are they?

Uncategorized Oct 06, 2019

Welcome back Careblazer. There are so many confusing symptoms in dementia and today I want to talk about 3 symptoms in particular that many Careblazers ask me about- Delusions, hallucinations, and illusions. 

Delusions are very strong, fixed beliefs that do not change not matter how much evidence is presented that proves that belief wrong. No matter what is reality or what rational arguments are presented, there is no changing the belief.  This is common in dementia as well as other mental disorders such as Schizophrenia. 

There are different types of delusions such as Erotomanic, Grandiose, Jealous, Persecutory, and somatic. One of the most common types that occurs in dementia and can be really hard for the Careblazer is the jealous type of delusion. This is when the person believes that their spouse or partner is being unfaithful and accuses the person of being unfaithful. Another very difficult one is Persecutory, believing that someone is following them, spying on...

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When Your LOWD Looks and Acts Fine Around Others: A Common Symptom

Uncategorized Sep 29, 2019

Hey there Careblazer, welcome back.

Today, I want to talk about a common symptom in dementia that often confuses or frustrates the Careblazer. The symptom is - your loved one acting and looking completely fine to everyone else but acting out and being more difficult around you. 

If you would rather watch my video on this topic, click here

Now in dementia, because there is no outward sign you can see or there is no sign that tells others a person gas dementia, it’s easy for people to not realize that something is wrong with them. It’s sometimes not until the late stages of the disease when physical signs become obvious that others can see that something isn’t right.

But what I’m talking about is that your loved one might be angry, frustrated, and resentful of you. They might resist you, not engage in meaningful conversation with you, might be a difficult person to be around much of the time. BUT as soon as other people come around- say other family...

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Dementia Caregiver Self-Care

Uncategorized Sep 22, 2019

Welcome back Careblazer. Are you like many other caregivers I talk to? Do you feel like self-care is a luxury and not a necessity? 

I hope not, but what I want to talk about today is how many times caregivers feel that self-care is something they can put off and put off and put off. 

If you would rather watch my video on this topic, click here

Caregiving is a long can last decades and if you don’t take care of yourself along the way...even if you don’t feel like it’s absolutely necessary, you are at risk for many different health conditions, mood disorders, and dementia yourself. 

It’s easy to feel like self-care isn’t necessary especially when things are going relatively well and you feel okay. But this is how I want you to think about caregiving and self-care. 

If you can picture yourself like a car. You drive pretty far and log a lot of miles without needing much attention or care. Maybe a gas fill up every...

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